Ladies – which means all of my readers except for maybe 2? – do you know a male chauvinist pig? Are you often surprised when you encounter one? You know what I mean right? A guy who never *says* anything really wrong, but just makes your skin crawl and delivers the message through body language and facial expressions and tone of voice that you just don’t matter because you are a girl. They know The Lines they shouldn’t cross, but at the same time it is pretty clear they do NOT consider you an equal. In some ways they cover this by being TOO nice – too polite – too complimentary. Stopping mid sentence to say “Oh, you know you look very nice today” with a smile that is just too bright and a squeeze of your arm – coming from someone who really doesn’t know you well enough to be making that gesture. Then completely cutting off the conversation as one of his buddies walks up and turning away from you with nary an apology, or maybe a very muffled one thrown over his shoulder. No guilt over that since he gave you a compliment right? Acting impatient when you ask for a favor quizzing you about why you need to do that, then 5 minutes later going out of his way to help out another fellow board member who is male without question. Never truly giving you his full attention (something you realize after running the tapes of every conversation you’ve had with him through your mind after the latest cut off/distracted discussion). Yet he gives a dad on his team his undivided attention as you stand by dutifully waiting for him even though he knows you have to leave. I’m no raging feminist but I can also tell when I am being dismissed due to my gender.
Oddly – I know two guys like this. Both my age too. I think in some ways I could understand if it was someone from an older generation. But now? C’mon! It’s 2009! Really?
And there’s nothing I can do about it since they *dont* do anything overtly wrong. Instead I just smile real pretty 🙂 and count down the days until I don’t have to deal with them anymore.