How do you mourn the passing of someone you never set eyes on in real life?
How do you explain why you feel a hole in your heart over someone you never once hugged yourself?
How do you become a family over a flickering monitor?
I don’t know, it’s some sort of magical human connection for sure, but all I know is waking up to the email from the DH of our August Mom sister in Melbourne announcing her passing last night, well, it just ripped all of us apart.
A lucky few of us had met J over the years. Traveling to Australia meant looking her up naturally, just as it is anywhere we go where an August mom may be near. Our dear mom in Tasmania was the closest geographically and spoke with her when the news hit the list last week that J had been denied a chance at a clinical trial for cancer treatment and was looking for hospice care.
We thought we had a few weeks. Tasmania-mom told us that J would love to receive cards from all of us to brighten up her room. I hadn’t sent mine yet. I wanted to go to a specialty store to pick up a particularly festive one and with the three day weekend here, it had not yet gone out.
I thought we had a few weeks.
I think J did too because her last message to us spoke of her intention to get things in order and enjoy her last weeks with the family hopefully not in too much pain. Weeks, not days.
So now our cards of love will go out to her family. Husband and three children. A 17 year old daughter, a 13 year old daughter and a 10 year old son.
I hope they know their beloved mom was also beloved to us for the last 13-14 years. I hope they know they have an extended family out here enveloping them in virtual hugs, crying with them for our loss.
Rest in peace my August mom sister.